I am leaving here in about an hour and half for a weekend away with the kids…and I have nothing in my suitcase! So here is another effort in procrastination…
Advice time ladies…or more reassurance…I am not totally weird or lost in left field on this one, am I?
Facebook Friends:
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| I am not friends with this guy...and he is my dad! |
I seem to be odd ball out when it comes to Facebook friends. I have maybe 35 friends (okay I stand corrected I have 84…I didn’t realize that I know 84 people, but I am glad you are all my friends!) while the rest of the world has 300 friends. It is just who I am. I much prefer a close group of great friends to a larger group of acquaintances. I am sure there are some of you ladies who can keep up with a whole yearbook’s worth of people and feel totally connected with each and every one, I just can’t.
All of that said, I am not friends with many of my friends’ husbands. A few of those husbands are not on Facebook. I only counted three that I am friends with – two are out of town and one I use to babysit for so I saw him more often than I see most of my friends’ husbands. I just don’t feel right about being Facebook friends with everyone’s husband or guys in general and this from the girl who until post-college always had more guy friends than girl friends. Even my maid of honor was a guy.
Several of my husband’s friends have sent me friend requests – mostly guys from school who he is close to. I haven’t accepted those. It isn’t that I don’t like the guys, it’s just I don’t feel the need to be “friends” with them. I need a little space from that part of his life – school has already infiltrated so much of our family life.
I am friends with one of my husband’s friends, who I have never met, but he is someone who is important in my husband’s life. At this point in all of our busy lives Facebook is the best opportunity I have to get to know him in any sense.
And it is not that I spend my time on Facebook man-hating. If I had to guess I would say that since I am part of a couple, it is his job to be friends with the guys? Or maybe in this place in my life I have so little girl time, I don’t feel the need to drag the guys a long?
What do you think? Who do you not friend? Who do you friend?...and the infamous last question, WHY?
This makes me want to go through my friend list. I think I'll get rid of all the men. ;)
ReplyDeleteWell, I didn't mean for you to do that...it is just as a married woman - who am i keeping up with and why...I un-friended a bunch of folks this time last year -because i didn't really know them that well and they had no intentions in actually getting to know me any better. It felt to much like a way to gauge the competition and keep up with the Joneses...and that just didn't feel good.
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